Why You Should Leave Emotionally Unavailable People
Signs they are emotionally unavailable
Perhaps they tell you straight to your face they are emotionally unavailable and unable to love. Perhaps they gave you signs telling you to leave that you may possibly be too blinded to see. Be that as it may, you should leave them once you know they are emotionally unavailable to date you.
They may give you the hot and cold treatment, sometimes chasing sometimes acting uninterested, the lack of the emotional intimacy, and more importantly all the mixed signals that they have given you.
Remember, you need stability and intimacy in the relationship — not something subpar than that if you are truly genuine in dating someone. You deserved equal reciprocation of effort, time and energy for the relationship.
Why You Should Not Date Emotionally Unavailable People?
Dating emotionally unavailable people is exhausting. You want emotional connections where you are appreciated, understood and loved. But emotionally unavailable people won’t and could not meet your emotional needs, nor would they be able to. They don’t care how you feel, they are unable to emphatize with you, though they would expect you to meet to their needs without willingness to compromise.
They will never see your worth and appreciate your love even if you move the mountain for them. They could never reciprocate the love and all the moon and stars you have given them simply because they could not.
Their unavailability has nothing to do with you
You just simply could not love someone harder to make them love you back.
Their unavailability is about them and their internal issues that they ought to resolve, hence no amount of external pressure could change them overnight.
Stop trying to fix their issues, stop trying to be their therapist, stop trying to win their hearts because he is a grown up man who needs to resolve his issues and get his life together. Fixing someone will only lead you to disappointment and resentment.
It’s not about you, it’s about them.
Don’t be afraid to walk away
Remember your worth. Remember how loving yourself feels like in the first place and think of how you deserved someone who loves you as much as you love them. Remember that you need to be in a healthy relationship for you to be happy, not a one-sided or worst toxic relationship that won’t treat you the same. You are attractive, smart and have a unique personality that someone else can appreciate and knows how to treat you right.
You deserved to be heard of, understood and appreciated by your partner.
If it’s not serving you, leave.
